Fantasies such as cuckolding are not frivolous. They can be entertaining, distracting, frightening, even arousing, but they also allow for creativity and help us plan for the future.
As long as we don’t mistake fantasies for reality or let them become too rigid, they provide a necessary escape from the here and now.
Firstly, cuckolding is a very common and normal fantasy for men.
A surprising number of heterosexual men have so-called “cuckold fantasies”, meaning that they find the prospect of watching their partner have sex with other guys to be sexually arousing (the word “cuckold” literally means a man whose wife is cheating on him, hence the name).
Why? While the reasons are many, often the men who enjoy having their wives explore extra-marital affairs crave submission or humiliation. Some men get off on having a wife or girlfriend that other men desire. Some are closeted and want to explore male sexuality. Others derive excitement from seeing their wives or girlfriends fulfilled in new ways.
Many happy cuckolds are also voyeurs, and their wives or girlfriends might be exhibitionists. The fetish is almost always the man’s, not the woman’s. But that doesn’t mean cuckolding is all about him. “For couples who make this work, the woman also finds excitement, fulfilment, and stimulation from the sexual exploration of the taboo.
Cuckolding couples are, interestingly, excellent communicators. So, communicate. Tell her how you feel. Ask him how he feels.
And finally, never (ever) take a cuckolding fantasy out of the bedroom. There are no recorded cases of it working long-term for any couple.
Enjoy, cuckolding him!
Find out what kind of cuck he is? Discover what part of cuckolding triggers his fantasy?
If a couple wants to consider exploring cuckolding, they should start slowly and carefully, with fantasy, role-play, or watching porn together.
See what jealousy, fear, loss, and anger triggers get tickled. Learn what pieces in this fantasy work and which ones are too challenging.”
The most popular cucky toys are:
- Chastity devices
- Dildo’s and Vibrators
- Strapons (you know you want it)
- Nipple rings (non-piercing)
Remember, most toys are for HER pleasure, not the male.
She may simply get pleasure from watching you wear something or from you performing with it.
Whatever you think or feel, it’s very normal